Hello fellow, bloggers, writers and readers. I don’t know about you, but for me sharing work with friends and family is terrifying. It’s like standing in front of them naked while they sit and judge. (Well it’s not, but it makes you feel just as vulnerable).
After my initial beta reading from my best writing buddy, I re-edited my manuscript and doled it out to a wider selection of willing friends and relatives. I was really nervous at first, I was letting my guard down in a real way and then as time passed I stopped being nervous. I stopped being nervous because not a single bloody one of them had read it. Then it was to hell with nerves and on with “where are you?” “how are you doing?” … and other ways of getting their arses in gear.
When I finally started getting some feedback back in from them the nerves started up again. What if they didn’t like it? What if they think I’m weird? What if they think it’s about them? And worst of all, what if they don’t think I should be a writer? … The funny thing about those worries is that they related more to me as a person than they did my book. I’m proud of my book and if I didn’t believe in it, I wouldn’t have showed it to them to begin with.
I’ll start by saying they’ve given me some fair and useful criticism, tips that are hard to see yourself on your own project. But the overall response has been a big thumbs up. ‘Hilarious’, ‘fantastic’ and ‘I forgot you’d written it’.
The latter is my favourite comment. I think that’s the highest praise you can give an aspiring writer because if the people who know you best have forgotten it’s your voice and are just enjoying reading a story, surely that must bode well for your prospective audience. I hope so anyway.
I’m looking forward to re-editing my manuscript based on their notes and getting it out in the world. Beta reading is about more than reaffirming an author’s confidence. It’s feedback from your market and a chance to see an objective view of something you can only be subjective about. It’s been fab to experience such great beta love and I hope my book will be all the better for it.
Where are you at with your stories? Are you nervous about beta reading? Have you been a beta reader? Do you think beta love is useful?
I always love to hear from you!
My Friend the Writer 
Great post. I know what you mean about feeling most vulnerable when showing your work to close friends and family, but they really are the most helpful with feedback and are generally the kindest. I only just discovered my father was reading my blog and watching my videos, it was terrifying knowing this but overwhelming that he enjoyed it and is now my “favourite stalker”. lol.
Looking forward to more of your stuff. 🙂
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Thsnks for stopping by. Thats really really sweet! Bless him. You’re right, they’re kind and helpful and it feels great!
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I love hearing from beta readers. I’ve also been a beta for select friends. Both parts taught me quite a bit.
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Its interesting isn’t it? I say be harsh but at the end of the day I dont want them to hate it, or if i’m reading, i want to like it to avoid an awkward conversation !
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I don’t think harsh is helpful. I can be professional without being a jerk about things. Sometimes I’ve addressed the biggest items and left the smaller ones out. It depends upon the writer.
They have to learn to crawl before they can fly.
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